Better not younger?
This is my philosophy on ageing.
Something worries me about ageing and it is certainly not the process for I have come to terms with this some time ago. What really bothers me is the popular idea that to age well we must appear younger; younger in looks, in body and even in mind. Who decided that ageing well means we should automatically strive to look younger?
I don’t want to look “younger, I have decided as I age I want to be better.
Better in the overall sense; in the way I think, I move, I look. I want to take advantage of the years and put to use not only the experiences but also the mistakes. Maturity is something to be cherished and celebrated, not something to hide and push under the covers.
I don’t really want to look like a 30 year old but I do wish I had worked it better back then. You never know what you had until it’s gone.
This is the one piece of advice I have shared with my daughters, to revel in how they look now and celebrate their youth and beauty.
It goes without saying the physical changes of maturity are confronting at times. The grey hair on a bad day is enough to have me calling the colourist and begging for “younger”. So far I have resisted but it is not painless.
Who doesn’t look in the mirror and wonder who is that person looking back? When I see myself truly, with bright lights and magnification, I take a deep breath and remember all that has happened to be here in the first place; the good, the bad and the in-between. I hold that thought.
It doesn’t mean I like the reflection, hardly ever, but I do strive to see a better version of my younger self and not a younger version of my older self.
There is a big difference.
We cannot blame marketing and advertising for trying a seductive sell.
Who hasn’t fallen under the ten-years-younger spell? I know I have and repeatedly. When I try beauty treatments and the latest this and that I look for the benefits that make me feel better and I don’t delude myself that the years can vanish with the application of even the most scientifically developed creams. I will happily run, skip and jump towards “glowing”, “dewy” and “hydrated”; a reduction in years, not so willingly.
The key to ageing is staying on course; finding our own path.
It is easier said than done as life is as merciless as it is miraculous and has a habit of reminding us we aren’t getting any younger. That’s ok with me because my new mantra is “better not younger”.
I will be featuring women in this new series, “better not younger” who have followed this way of thinking, women who have only improved with maturity.
I would love your suggestions, to know the women you admire for their transition through the years.
Let’s work towards better in every way we can. Are you with me? xv
images of french actress, sophie marceau