There can never be too many Little Black Dresses.
I am convinced of this.
There is something I don’t understand.
Men think when you buy yet another ‘little black dress’ that it looks exactly the same as any other dress hanging in the wardrobe.
How wrong can they be?
I am always amused when I ask for an opinion and the answer is a puzzled look with a, “Is that new?”
It is not about having a new dress it is that they can’t see the differences. Crazy, right? Are they blind?
Is it the same for them with cars or sport? I am certainly in the dark when it comes to nuances there. Perhaps it is when an interest is important we revere the differences and when it isn’t we unintentionally dismiss them to our periphery? All I know is that many men do not see the same level of detail when it comes to fashion and how we dress. They either tell us we look ‘fabulous’ in just about everything, which we know we don’t, or they are set in their ways and like their women wearing a particular look. Deep down I think mine would be happy if I wore a conservative style every day of the week. Lucky after all these years he is well trained and has given up with that one. I wear conservative, but not every day.
I believe the small details, the tailored intricacies make all the difference and one LBD is definitely not the same as another.
I also find about now I am becoming bored with my dressing, with the way I look and with most pieces in my closet. It’s January, the festivities are over and we are in for a few months of sameness. I have worn pretty much everything multiple times in December and I am feeling like a lift; not a whole new wardrobe but a piece here and there to mix it up a bit, to revitalise the existing.
Oftentimes I opt for an accessory, a new bag or a fabulous pair of shoes or boots but right now I am in the mood for a new black dress. A birthday is looming and I think a refresh on the LBD is what I will wear for dinner that evening.
I am thinking elegant, with an edge over the detail.
I might be the only one to recognise the dress is different but that is perfectly fine. Dressing should be about how we feel, not about others and I dress to please myself. If I feel confident in a piece then I am off to a good start. I hate feeling uncomfortable or uncertain about it; I never feel easy in those outfits and generally I fidget and am distracted until I change. How we dress is only a small part of finding our signature style and reinforcing our confidence but it is an important one.
So I will embrace the detail of the new, however similar it may be and if I am the only one to notice, I don’t mind at all. There are never too many LBD’s and we know they are never, ever the same.
‘Little Black Dress’ Notes
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image lanvin for H&M 2010