V A is a long standing and recognised digital creative; her voice resonates with many. In the last ten years, the site has developed into an online destination for fashion, beauty and lifestyle advice. Her sense of style, editorial flair and practical counsel offers an inspired and graceful approach to living.

V A is a long standing and recognised digital creative; her voice resonates with many. In the last ten years, the site has developed into an online destination for fashion, beauty and lifestyle advice. Her sense of style, editorial flair and practical counsel offers an inspired and graceful approach to living.

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Sep 25, 2017

Better Not Younger: Trust Your Instinct

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Do you trust your instinct?

This philosophy of mine, “better not younger” means trusting my instinct has an important role.


Ageing hopefully means we have learned to follow our instincts and trust them. Whenever I don’t listen to my mind, body and heart I usually regret it. Trusting our instincts is not only a natural response but also a learned one over time. It goes without saying our instinctive reactions should improve with age.


Self-confidence has a lot to do with instinct.

When confidence dips, so does our ability to make good judgements. I equate a loss of self-confidence with an inability to make decisions. The doubts, the fears and the uncertainties seem to come racing to the forefront of my mind when I am not feeling on top of the world and any natural instinct I have will be completely overwhelmed. This will usually result in a poor conclusion and I can hear myself saying, if only I had trusted my instincts.


Trusting our instinct means investing in us. It means believing we have the answers at our fingertips and it also means following through. There is no point being full of bravado without the conviction to back it up.


Our instinct is ours and ours alone; instinct is a gift we can share but not impose on others.

Instinct is a powerful tool and ageing means we have had the time to practice and hone this invaluable skill. How easy it is at times to see the answers and how hard it is to sit back and watch others take an alternative path?


Sometimes we have no explanation for why our instincts lead us in a certain direction but we know we must follow them. This is always a difficult one to explain. Do you know what I mean? The feeling deep within something is right but there is no exact source to pinpoint why – you just know.


Age and the experience have enabled me to trust my instinct and rely on it completely. I rely on my instincts in the smallest day-to-day way and I believe in them implicitly for the bigger picture. I am grateful for them.


The gift of instinct is not one I take for granted.

It is a skill honed over many decades and one to lead into many interesting situations. Instinct stops me from over-thinking and that is both an advantage and a curse. When the mind won’t stop with the gymnastics I reflect on my first thoughts, my initial hunch and 99% of the time there is my answer.



I know I cannot be younger but I am very aware I can be better; I simply must trust my instincts. xv




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