Beauty comes in many different packages.
Being beautiful is a life long work and of course I am not meaning the physical attributes here. Yes, most of us want to be more beautiful in whatever way is acceptable and desirous to us but deep down we know it is a lot more complicated than diet, exercise, needles, scalpels and potions.
Internal beauty requires dedication.
The kind of beauty that makes us wake up each day and feel well within, beauty that makes us engage positively with others, be generous and for the most part enrich the lives of those we love and those around us.
This is not a one, two three easy beauty secret to share; we can’t take it or buy it but we can work towards this.
The beauty secret I am talking about is alone time.
As I move through my years I feel the need for more alone time. Not because I am anti-social or don’t enjoy the company of friends and family but rather it is a restorative time. It is different to “me time” in that “me time” can be shared with others; alone time is about feeling truly comfortable on your own.
Spending time alone can be tough to handle and perhaps if a life is lived alone as routine my sentiments may not resonate. Does a solo life finds the company of others nature’s beauty secret?
I appreciate my alone time as so much more than “me time”. It is a time to focus and a time to feel well within myself. It is the place to search and find contentment, to be happy with the status quo and to reflect. Having only myself as company does really feel like the most wonderful gift at times. Alone time can be quiet, it can be noisy and equally happy or sad depending on our moods and circumstances and yet I don’t think of it as maudlin but rather as a privilege and one not to be frittered away.
When I say “alone time” I am not entirely a purist.
A serious soul might be strong enough to eliminate company all together, including the computer, books and social media. My version of alone time allows the external influences; “me time” is when I detox from the frantic digital life. This kind of alone time is not only a time to seek personal contentment but also a catch up time. A selfish moment to bask in what others may not necessarily want to share.
When I am alone if I feel like staying up all night and reading I will. Skip dinner, I can. Fancy a dinner alone, I’ll do it. Can’t be bothered with hair and make-up or wearing the right clothes, who cares? Alone time is when decisions like these don’t matter and compromise ceases to exist.
It’s so good for us.
Why is alone time one of the best-kept beauty secrets?
Inner contentment, being confident within our own skins is not only a gift to you but also a precious gift for others. Learning to be satisfied and fulfilled on our own enables us to be better companions with partners, friends and families.
Taking time out is refreshing and breathes life into relationships, especially when the time is well spent. Time alone doesn’t have to be weeks or even days; sometimes an afternoon alone is like a shot of adrenalin or an energising tonic. Facing our true selves with less distraction is a positive. We mightn’t like our own company all that much sometimes but how rewarding for us to know our foibles and have the possibility to work on them.
Alone time often makes us confront that which we prefer to conceal in a whirlwind of social activity or work. That’s not a bad thing.
Most of all I believe a contented woman, a happy and confident women is the most beautiful of all and if a little alone time now and then means this then that is one best kept beauty secret. xv
THE BEST KEPT BEAUTY SECRETS
images of agyness deyn by tim walker for vogue 2011