What does it take to make an impression?
Who does stand out in the crowd and why do they?
Standing out or being noticed is so much more than a fabulous blouse of a pair of killer heels. Making an impression is less about what’s on the outside and more about what is on the inside. It does read as obvious but it is easy to forget our inner in the quest for outer beauty and attention.
Let’s face it, who doesn’t love attention? How do we make sure of attention? Easy, we try and stand out, be noticed and make an unforgettable impression.
Yes, I do notice well-dressed women with style in spades and I also know what I can’t see is what has probably drawn me to them in the first place. I like to think in a bright and shiny world the inner and the outer go hand in hand. That would be naive of me and so often the beautiful ones are a brittle veneer.
I believe we should stand out, we should make an impression but for reasons we can be proud of. Looking our best selves is important but only a minuscule part of life’s equation. These days I want to work not only on my physical self but also on intangible qualities to help make a stronger self. As I am often saying I wish to be better not younger.
How are we going to do this?
We must be good listeners.
If we are listening we are focussing on others. It is so natural to become wrapped up in our own thoughts, cares and worries; we forget the voice of our friends and families. Everyone loves a good listener.
Let’s not judge.
I know most of us have fixed opinions but those who don’t judge win hands down every time. Think about it, don’t we seek out friends who we feel won’t censor or criticise? We are generally attracted to those who will take into account our point of view.
Give more of our time.
Time is our most precious gift and being there, whether we are needed or not, is one way to create an impact. Time is a balancing act and not an easy one. I for one am no tight-rope walker and fall into the net on a regular basis. Giving time is a question of willingness and management; it is not an easy equation.
Oftentimes we might think we are approachable but others might not. Don’t you remember the girl at school who was too frightening to approach? That’s the kind of approachable I am thinking of. Some would call it an aura and others a vibe; whatever it is it is an important one to keep positive.
There is no such thing as too generous.
Generosity is about giving in every way; it is not simply about monetary value. A generous person is how we would wish to be described. When I think, ‘generous’ I think warm, loving and unselfish.
Take one for the team.
Sometimes it is important to do what we don’t want to. Yes, it is on our list to say, ‘no’ more and listen to our own voice but there are junctions in life where doing what we don’t want have significant value for others. It will be noted and paid back a thousand times over.
You have created a wonderful lasting impression on me. Any tips to add? xv
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keep it simple, you do the rest
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