Do you overthink?
Overthinking can be as damning as underthinking and equally as disastrous at times.
I would admit to being somewhere in the middle and maybe a bit of both.
Underthinking often works for me because the spontaneous decision making can be some of the best; overthinking can save me from myself as not all decisions work in my favour. Thinking and how much time we devote to a decision is one of those unquantifiable qualities – it can be the best and worst of results.
There is a case to suggest too much overthinking is not a desirable quality.
Simply, because we miss out and life remains static without change. Flexibility, as we grow wiser in our lives, is everything and being a decision maker helps hone this skill. Flexibility and the ability to shift course is an admirable trait and one I continue to work on day by day. Overthinking or procrastination can be an excuse to prevent us from facing change. No decision making means the status quo stays.
What do I mean by overthinking?
For me when I overthink I lose my self-confidence; the idea twirls and whirls and is thrashed and bashed until there is nothing left to consider, let alone put in play.
Overthinking can be an excuse because I don’t wish to address an issue and to overthink means effectively it will disappear. No decision means no confrontation.
Overthinking can be all about procrastination. Thinking generally requires action in some form, even in an intellectual sense.
Overthinking is a fast track method for avoidance. We justify our lack of action because we have “given the matter great thought” when really we haven’t addressed it at all. We may have spent many hours in contemplation but contemplation is not positive.
Where is the balance between overthinking and underthinking?
Underthinking can be just as reckless. Not devoting enough time and thought to our decisions can mean many different kinds of disaster – financial, physical and emotional. The flip side, how much do we all love an impromptu and impetuous moment? It’s a tough one.
For me, the answer lies in classifying the “thoughts”.
I never want to overthink whether I will eat a hamburger or not. This will depend on my mood and my health.
Never, ever overthink what to wear or the hair and the make-up. Guilty, but working on it.
Life should be and can be about saying, YES.
These types of non-life altering decisions don’t deserve overtime.
Conversely, I don’t want to underthink any important life decisions. How we advance our futures deserve our time, our energy and our enthusiasm.
Thinking – the over and the under – requires balance and practice. Have you found yours? xv
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