Giving or Receiving?
Receiving a compliment is absolutely wonderful but giving one and watching the recipient’s reaction is the best feeling of all.
I believe in complimenting strangers if I notice something to admire. A woman’s hair, a fabulous coat or a well-executed job; the compliment is one thing but it is the noticing that counts.
Having our eyes open and receptive to those around us is genuinely what counts. So often when I notice someone and offer a compliment, his or her reaction is the same. “Do I really think so”? I do, or I wouldn’t be saying it, but this makes me realise we do not compliment each other enough. We take each other far too for granted and “seeing” others, even those we don’t know, are equally as important.
Having all the self-confidence in the world is one thing but sharing it around is what is important too. Being open and generous is a sign of not only confidence but also personal contentment. Wanting to save all the positivity for us doesn’t suggest a happy place.
Why I know a compliment can make the day is because an unsolicited kindness or comment makes me feel on top of the world. It is not expected nor taken for granted; never presumed and not a given. A spontaneous compliment received is like a shot of adrenalin. If I feel like this, I know others will too so why be shy?
There is an art to complimenting.
We must really mean it. A loaded compliment is no compliment at all.
Spontaneity is everything. A compliment is a genuine reaction to someone or something we have seen; don’t be shy.
Be observant and really see what’s happening. Complimenting is a great way of noticing.
Do and say because you want to; no fishing. Be up front.
My recommendation? Compliment 3 x daily; it’s the best medicine we will ever take. xv
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image, vogue 1975, margaretha olschewsk