Let’s think about it.
Why do we have to be pigeon-holed by our age?
Somedays at 60 I feel younger than I did at 40 and certainly happier than I was at 30. Whoever said, “age is a state of mind” was clever but probably should have extended their brilliance by saying. “and body”. Physical fitness has a great deal to do with age, ageless and aging.
I want to leave the physical aside and focus on an “ageless” mentality.
I don’t wish my merits to be judged by my age but rather their true worth.
Ageless is about so much more than how we look. It doesn’t matter whether you can belt it out like Shakira and dance like J-Lo at 50; if you don’t have the mental smarts it doesn’t matter the number of years. How we think is the first step towards, “better, not younger” and whether we can live a life that is not age-dependent. What we do should not be defined by how old we are but more by our own well made choices, our capabilities and our desires. To be ageless means thinking it through on a deeper level; we don’t decide against something because we are too old or past it.
The only time I feel my age is if I am fighting illness and then I fight even harder to regain my mojo. It’s tough sometimes not to feel the passage of time and to acknowledge what it means. I accept time has the feeling of acceleration each year but this makes me more determined to pack more in, open my mind to new ideas and enjoy this life to the fullest. There will be no, “I can’t” because of my age.
There may be financial, emotional or intellectual barriers but they will not be age-related.
However far we have come, we do live in an ageist society. I feel it sometimes.
And the very focus on older women creating, working and living their best lives, while inspirational, is oftentimes double-handed. Isn’t she fabulous can sometimes have the silent “for her age” subterfuge behind the compliment?
It is up to us to set the agenda.
Only we can nurture our minds to live in an open state. This is not to say we should deny our age or ever try to act or appear younger. This is not the idea. I have met women far older than me with effervescence, intelligence and an acute understanding of life; they truly embody this notion.
How can we feel “ageless”?
I don’t really like this word for the two syllables are contradictory but there are certain mind-sets that work for us and others against us.
Open up to new ideas; don’t automatically reject the unfamiliar.
Never stop learning; thinking we know it all is the fastest demise.
Challenge and try; failure is positive if we make an attempt.
Listen to others – it is so easy to fill our heads with our own voices and not hear what’s happening around us.
Live for the future and don’t dwell on the past. I want tomorrow to be better than today.
Realism with goals, dreams and plans; don’t set yourself up for disaster before we even start.
Do; the act of doing is the best motivation. Putting things off for tomorrow never comes.
I wish I had the secret to physical agelessness for you but I fear it would be a fool’s quest.
Let’s start here instead. xv
Some Things Are Ageless
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