The right body language is hard to master.
We can say things we don’t mean and it is not always by speaking out of turn.
Being aware of our body language makes all the difference.
I know we “don’t” judge by appearance but in reality we often do. We might forget to smile, be caught unawares but it does not mean we are unhappy. How often we cross our arms out of habit and can appear forbidding? We aren’t, it is a way of feeling protected and comfortable. This kind of body language gives the wrong impression and sends unintentional messages of negativity. None of us want that.
Couples have their own dance, their own body language that makes them a team. Often the body language is an indicator of how together they really are.
Fidgeting is another mannerism that may be nothing more than a general nervousness but can be off-putting for others. Restlessness, jumping up and down, pacing and seemingly lacking in concentration are all movements that end up making me nervous and uncomfortable. Un-relaxed body language is off-putting and not something to seek out.
Then there is eye contact, or the lack of it. That is a body language I find very hard to manage. What does that mean? I take distant gazing to suggest insecurity; it is probably nothing more than a habit that has been left un-corrected.
And then there is posture.
Upright posture shows an engagement, an interest in present company whereas slouchy body language suggests the complete opposite.
How we dress is another form of body language.
The style we communicate tells our story. We are often judged for the “language” we wear. Appearances do not tell the whole truth but they contribute. It would be a glorious freedom to believe that the perception of others is of no importance; it is simply not the case. Professional, personal and emotional judgements are assessed through body language and appearance.
Good body language must be another best-kept beauty secret, xv.
i have loved this style of dress from cynthia steffe forever. a dress to wear anywhere and feel on top of the world. add a flash of red lipstick and some scalloped pumps and the body language is good to go.
if the heat is still a problem in your part of the world, there is a sleeveless version that is very pretty.
Dress In The Right Body Language
image by mark shaw for dior