28 Apr 2013

P.S But What About The Shoes And Bags… The Prada And The Gucci

Thank you for your brilliance… all of you… it really helped…

I have a much clearer understanding of what I want to keep and what I don’t. It is reassuring that so many of us have been in the same situation… have faced the same dilemmas… and your solutions, your way of thinking, of rationalising of moving on were inspirational… I feel more enthusiastic and energised…

 

Except….

For a couple of small… actually… not so small…

Exceptions…

Big Exceptions…

The bags… the shoes… the clothes…

I just can’t… I really can’t…

Even the accessories… Never, ever the scarves…

You know that I love fashion… always have…always will…

I have my first pair of Pradas… I have every pair of sunglasses I have ever worn… and don’t even start on the handbags…

Clutches… totes… shoulders… you name it… I have kept them…

You can try and convince me… but I suspect I won’t budge…

Because… You see… I still sometimes wear it or carry it…

Besides… I like to look at my fashion past…

Give myself the thumbs up or so often, the thumbs down…

Mostly… I just want to remember…

Where I wore what, when and with whom…

And so often…

There is a revival… and I am back in the game…

No… the bags, the shoes and most of the clothing are moving with me…

We are attached… for the long haul…

 

Please, please, please may I have a large closet in my future… she says smiling

Happy Weekend and a million thank yous… xv

P.S

I have just ordered these fabulous clear shoe boxes… so I can be organised but enjoy my booties at the same time…

and I do need a new tote… to update my collection…

so many to love… pick a tote any tote

 

 

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38 Comments

Coco

Oh the Annabel Ingal grey tote……perfection. I wish I could save my old sunglasses since I seem to loose my designer ones. I buy cheap ones until I can purchase new sunglasses and I never seem to loose those:(

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Heather in Arles

I just went back to finish up reading the comments from yesterday–so fascinating–what emotional connections we can have to our belongings! And I didn’t comment because you KNOW I am of no help.;)

Eh, oui…I actually did finally pass along my first pair of Pradas because, like Cinderella’s step-Sisters and the glass slipper–I couldn’t get my feet in them anymore!! :O But as for the rest…The good stuff stays. Even those that I know will never wear again. I love them.

Yesterday there was a lovely post on Daily Plate of Crazy about exactly this…written by a woman who is moving and going through the “time capsules” of her 30 purses. Charming.

Bon Weekend!

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Frances Russell

Vicki … keep them all! They all have a meaning and a story in your life and that is special! I am holding onto my treasures to give to Georgie as vintage!
best wishes
Frances
xx

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pve

A few years ago – I attended a wonderful show that housed many of Princess Grace’s wardrobe and I loved seeing all her accessories. I think it’s fun to keep things that can tell a story.
Things that are worn tell us about time too.
pve

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Vicki

Yes…they do… but the only place mine will be exhibited is in the farm shed… ;)

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Anita Rivera

How in the world did I miss the last post? HOW?

Oh Vicki, throwing out things is never easy, is it? AND I still have gorgeous clothes from waaaaaay back, I mean when I first got married 31 years ago! I say keep what is useful for that scaled-down look. I keep accessories always, but change out things like shirts or sweaters that wear out. But those wool jackets or skirts, I keep those.

And thank you for your kindness and reply about permission for the giveaway. It will be a pleasure for me to do so! LOVE! Anita

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Jean Bragg

I totally get it about the bags and the shoes and understand the pain it causes to think of giving them up.

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Karen Albert

I feel your pain Vicki! After all of these years I have downsized considerably. I kept a storage unit for a while and then when I gave it up, there was almost nothing I HAD to have. My sister had three storage units at one time.

Giving to a charity re-seller is a good way to go. We all have things that are slightly used or worn just a couple of times, that someone else can benefit from greatly.

Shoes, bags and scarves are another matter. Even my favorite sandals need to go at some point though!

xoxo
Karena
Art by Karena

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Kathy

Hi Vicki
Your collection sounds amazing…..I can totally understand you wanting and needing to keep them all.
Go girl and may your closet expand :) xx

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Shelley

I am downsizing and am a handbag and shoe collector. Keep saving them a d remembering
which trip they were purchased

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Maria Costa

Keep them! I consider them works of art and I use them as part of my decor.
Have a beautiful day!

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D. A. Wolf

Having moved 8 years ago after 10+ years in a family home, I went through this and was fairly ruthless… Except for the shoes. Now, already having downsized once, I’m trying to streamline again with kids in college. But… I now have their stuff and some of my mother’s and grandmother’s. wonderful things… Pins and brooches from the 60s for example. It feels impossible to part with those items, maybe even more than my abundance of footwear, bags, and belts! I’ll be interested to hear more about how the move proceeds…

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mary

Hi Vicki. Never throw out a bag or shoes or a designer dress—they are classics and make you feel feminine and loved and special–although very Proustian –they all bring us back to special points in time. (The same goes for special letters and photos)
Mary

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La Contessa

KEEP IT!IT WILL BE MORE VALUABLE IN THE YEARS TO COME PLUS, EVERYTHING COMES BACK IN FASHION ESPECIALLY THE GOOD STUFF!YOUR DAUGHTERS WILL ADORE IT ,THE FACT IT WAS MUMS!
I REALIZE I DID ANOTHER POST ON FRENCH COUNTRY STYLE,AND THAT WASNOT WHAT I WANTED YOU TO SEE BUT A BABY DEER I HAD FOUND AND BROUGHT HOME!YOU HAVE NO TIME NOW BUT LATER WHEN YOU ARE ALL PACKED GO BACK LOOK UNDER NEWS ON THE RIGHT AND CHECK OUT DEAR DEAR DEER!I FEEL YOU ARE AN ANIMAL PERSON LIKE ME?!!!
IS THAT YOUR CLOSET IN LONDON NOW OR DID YOU PINCH THAT PHOTO FROM CYBER SPACE??JUST BEAUTIFUL…………..TELL THE HUSBAND YOU WILL BE NEEDING AN ACCESSORY MAISON DOWN IN THE JARDIN WHERE YOU CAN GO AND ACCESSORIZE BEFORE DOING THE DAILY CHORES!THATS A DREAM FOR ME BUT YOU MAY BE ABLE TO PULL IT OFF??IS THERE ANY BUILDING NOT YET RESTORED ON THE PROPERTY??!!!!
XXXX

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Pamela

i just love you! we have moved many times and in those early moves..when i was young and dumb :) …i purged too many things! oh how i wish i had some of those pieces…why didn’t i have the insight??
please do tell.. is that really your closet?? i die!!
bon weekend vicky!!
(and when you are next in paris..i’d love to meet you! :)

xo
pam

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lisa thomson

Ooooh, your closet sounds wonderful and I think you’re wise to hang on to all of it! Enjoy. I would love to stop by and borrow one of your bags. I’m looking for a new one for summer. I’m tired of my hobo bags they don’t seem to fit my stuff in anymore. Do we start carrying more stuff as we get older? I feel like Mary Poppins some days.

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Jaime A

In total agreement on never parting with favorite accessories! I recently pulled out my Coach bucket bag I had from the mid to late 70’s. It was still in great shape and I thought “why not?”. To my surprise, I have been consistently stopped not only by women my own age who recognize the bag but young women in their twenties who recognize it as well. I’m enjoying using it again so much. I’m so happy to have resisted the “urge to purge”!
Thanks for the great post, Vicki!

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Hallie

The fact that you are moving and writing is miraculous and I laughed outloud when I read your entry for today. You’re funny Vicki, and, absolutely yes, keep the things you wore. They come back, and even if they don’t you’ll treasure them and so will your DD’s.

I’m a little wary of all this time management obsession coupled with ultra spare living – for some – like a good friend of mine it brings peace, but for me I need a little more excess. We attach meaning to personal items and why not?

Good luck! Anyway you need them for the beautiful vignettes you photograph.

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Vicki

Yes… In France I think I can afford excess…. as I have the great luxury of space… London is big city living… and the living is tight… xv

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Kathleen Botsford

I am in the process of cleaning my closet. Putting boots away and welcoming summer. I am also getting ready for my first trip to Paris in three weeks….So excited! have your books on my table with my pens and notepads…

I do give shoes away and then regret it later but never bags…..I love my bags! My daughter and I just purchased our first Celines. Love, love. love them! She received lots of comments on hers in NYC yesterday as she presented a marketing plan to NBC Sports. One guy told her he liked hers better than all the Birkins he sees. He must not be aware of the difference in price!

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Pamela RG

Hi Vicki, I collect Designer handbags and shoes too. Some of my designer handbags that I do not use at all, I have sold them on E-Bay through my friend who buys and sells on E-Bay Designer goods.. We were both amazed by the crazy response on E-Bay. There was even a time that two buyers almost had the same bids on my Marc Jacobs bag so my friend gave it to the one who paid first. It turned out the buyer has been looking for a bag with turn key for so long so when she found my bag on E-Bay, she placed a bid right away. The other bag was a Versace leather bag with gold chains which I purchased but never used. It was an impulse buy. The buyer was a father who will gift the bag to his teen-age daughter. So I felt good that my bags were purchased by good people and they were happy about their purchases too. My friend now is waiting for me to sell more of my bags through him.

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Emily

OMG, I am Mis. Practical from yesterday, BUT I was referring to the kitchen gadgets, old college books, baby clothes etc. I would NEVER part with Gucci, Prada, Hermes,David Yurman, etc., of any kind unless I totally outgrew them (in which case I’d probably give the item to my daughter.) I was not born with a silver spoon in my mouth so all of my designer accessory purchases really me something to me, most were firsts for me, and I remember the circumstances around acquiring each of them lol! The only other thing I won’t part with with out a fierce verbal argument are my hard bound books. The coffee table “Decorator,” classics ie Pride and Prejudice, and books that really influenced my life. Happy Packing!
Emily
Dallas,Texas

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Rosalie Carmichael

Handbags, jewerly, scarfs, belts I will never part with. OK, I did actually part with a couple of bags that were gifts and just not me and there was one or two belts that no longer completly surround the circumstance of my waist. The shoes I keep for years and eventaully wear out, oh, the nashing of teeth when I can no longer repair them and they get consigned to the bin. The see through boxes are great, so much easier to find what you are looking for. Enjoy the excitment of the new abode. Rosalie

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Esther George

Vicki you are funny . Happy packing and reminiscing. I have a pair of my mums shoes with pointed toe and heel from the 50’s I love them…..just can’t wear them anymore…no matter. Regards Esther from Sydney.

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Faux Fuchsia

I declutter a lot but I generally keep the designer clobber. I’ve given a few Missoni things (poncho, scarves) to Mum but it’s hard to part with stuff like say a Fendi baguette… I have to declutter a lot because I have no storage…good luck!

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Sarah

Vicki have you ever read “Love, Loss and What I Wore” by Ilene “Gingy” Beckerman? This bestselling book has been adapted for the stage by Nora and Delia Ephron and I took my daughter to see it a few years ago. It speaks so directly to our wardrobe, our lives and why we keep what we keep. Thank you for your great posts!!

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michele

Vicky, I think it is a dilemma we all face. I approach the bag issue differently than almost anyone I know. I have two constraints, a tiny apartment in San Francisco with very little storage, and a not so large budget (due, in part for paying for said apt). Nevertheless I want to carry a nice bag. So, I save up and buy a good bag every 3-4 years. I make sure that it isn’t trendy and will hold up. At any given time I only own two bags, a spring and summer, and a fall and winter. It works very well for me. That is not to say that if I lived in Kansas or Texas and had closets the size of my living room, this would not all go out the door. And of all of the totes, I would choose one of the vintage Chanel. Happy Sunday

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miss b

I read with interest your last post and was thinking how often I seem to sort through my clothes to take to the charity shop but then I read this post and suddenly realised that I very rarely take shoes, bags and scarves because I am so attached to them and I suppose I know they will at some point be used again!

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