I’m curious about this.
Our last VA Book Club was a novel about a young man and an older woman – it was written from his perspective – it’s a good read but more than that it was thought-provoking. I met and married young, we are much the same age and still together so my experience is not with the younger man.
When I was younger I considered the “older” man to be the desirable option and was convinced my path would be with someone years my senior. Obviously this was not to be, fortunately for me, as I could not have made a better nor happier choice.
Now I am older I can see the merits of dating someone younger. I haven’t but I get it. Especially for women and men. Many women, as they age, become smarter funnier, more self-assured and full of confidence. I see the appeal of an older woman; those qualities are very alluring and attractive. Who doesn’t want to spend time with someone like that?
Does this happen in the same way for men?
Some men slow up as they age. They have had their successes, their careers have established and in their minds, they are winding down. Not so for women. Many men want to retire, step away and take it easy; women want to up the pace, re-invent themselves and get going. If you think about it this way, I can see the appeal of reversing tradition and why opposite ages attract.
I have friends who have very successful histories with younger partners. Do these relationships sustain and last? Or are Mrs Robinson’s short-lived in a young man’s life? My feeling is the dynamics between the sexes has changed and what was once considered “out there” is now much more commonplace and successful. Attitudes have shifted and men and women are more willing to push the boundaries, challenge themselves and enjoy less traditional relationships.
What do you think? Love your thoughts. xv