2019 was a major year in my life.
I became a grandmother.
I am a woman who knows her mind and is very rarely surprised about her’s or other people’s behavior. Forget that, I have completely become an enigma. Where have I gone? Who is this new VA? In many ways, she is the same and in others, she has completely broken her mold.
I don’t recognize the old version but I absolutely love the new one.
Becoming a grandmother was not something I had ever thought about? That is the truth. Some women long for babies and the day when their children settle down and start a family – I wasn’t that girl. Deep down I knew one day it would happen but it was never my focus. I adore babies but I was happy with my lot and felt no need for more. My children are heaven, we are close and every day I feel blessed.
I underestimated the joy a baby brings to the family.
We are besotted by our little guy and cannot get enough of him. I watched friends disappear for a time when they became grandparents – I didn’t understand. They talked at length about the feelings for a new member of the family; I listened but was far from comprehending.
A brag book of photos may not be in my handbag (I promised myself I would not bore the world with daily shots of our darling) but change me he has. My priorities have shifted and last year I was determined to spend as much time as I could with my daughter and Archie before she resumed work. Fortunately, I clocked it was a time in my life I could not recapture and thankfully I followed my instinct.
We had the best time and I will be forever grateful for those life-changing months.
I don’t see myself as “granny’.
What I will be called is hardly a pressing problem, he is 8 months old, I’m hoping VV will fall out from the mix. Smart money tells me I will be called exactly what he chooses and all my prompts and planning will have little effect. Time will tell.
Now I am the woman who can’t walk past La Coqueta in Notting Hill without buying yet another cute outfit. This is a Spanish brand and if you have babies in your life and don’t know about La Coqueta, you are in for a treat. It’s on my London “insider’s list”. A year ago, this shop and all the other baby and nursery destinations were not on my radar. Fashion and homewares were my clicks of choice; now I have a whole extra repertoire. I couldn’t resist this for our boy. Their newborn wear is beautiful and if you are blessed with a little girl, you will be sorely tempted.
And then I found the teddy bears from de Bucci.
My fascination has grown as I helped my daughter decorate his bedroom.
My homewares and interiors love has taken me in a new direction. I barely recall the before and am smitten with this “after”. One day I walked past The Little White Company, became so engrossed and left with so many treasures I had to head home; my shopping list unticked. My dear friend Stephanie, at j.saint remy totally understands and has created a unique business to tempt us, besotted grandparents.
My dearest grandmothers, I finally get it. xv