Why is it so hard for some to agree to disagree?
We talk beauty often and we talk about the products, the fixes and the less obvious ways to lead a beautiful and enriched life. Can we touch on what isn’t such a pretty trait and what is something I think we could focus on more?
Some men and women feel the need to be right most of the time, regardless of whether they are or not. There is a need for their opinions to be re-enforced, to be agreed with as if this validates them in some way. A lack of self-confidence or a feeling of insecurity could be the reason but I don’t understand why there are some who can’t “live and let live”. I am not suggesting we should lack opinions, be weak or passive; I am suggesting if we believe something to be true or right for us, we should stick with it.
Self-confidence does allow us to follow our hearts and do what feels right, despite opinions sometimes to the contrary. Embracing our own opinions is not a reason to presume or demand others to adopt them. An affirmation from others does not necessarily mean we are right – it can make us feel better about us – but it is not a reason to devalue an alternative viewpoint.
Take the example of grey hair.
It is such a contentious subject and why it makes such a great forum for discussion.
I agree to disagree on the subject but there are some who can’t. They are 100% either way; it’s a must or it’s a total disaster.
Does it really matter? Can’t we be encouraging to those who want to take the step and appreciative of those who don’t?
I am suggesting here we need to learn to listen; we need to reach beyond the obvious and feel what drives those contrary opinions. It doesn’t mean we need to alter our own but have sensitivity and respect for our adversaries. Trying to talk someone around, forcing them to agree when they don’t is far from an elegant approach to controversy.
Is the need for endorsement more of a female response? Do we women seek reinforcement to boost our self-confidence? If others follow our lead and do as we do, does that make us feel better about us? xv
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